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Wed, Mar. 1st, 2006, 09:41 am
Someone asked why smart women date jerks. Here's how my mind is answering that question today.

Someone asked on their webjournal why smart women date jerks. Here's how my mind is answering that question today.

Bottom line, people do what they believe they'll be rewarded for doing. In the case of men acting like jerks, it's very easy to connect acting like a jerk with specific rewards.

Plus, there's a lot of rewards for dating bad people. Bad people are easier to predict and control. People often prefer the insecurity of knowing something bad's gonna happen over the insecurity of not knowing what's gonna happen. Like the Parliament song says, we descend to that which we love the most.

And then we grow up, and we choose good things we can't predict.

Plus I'm really cute.

Wed, Mar. 1st, 2006 03:01 pm (UTC)
bhanfhlaith

As someone who's done it, I would say that there's a subgroup of those women who had men who weren't jerks until they were already entrenched in our lives, and then removing them without causing WW III was difficult as understatement.

Wed, Mar. 1st, 2006 05:52 pm (UTC)
basilwhite: Yes.

Yes. In relationships the rewards change. Sometimes good, sometimes bad.