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Wed, Dec. 29th, 2004, 02:47 pm
I figured out my woman

I love a control freak who doesn't take herself seriously.

Rare breed.

Tue, Jan. 18th, 2005 08:27 pm (UTC)
(Anonymous): reality check

Hiya Basil. I enjoyed your webbie, and your story. Thank you for sharing so much. My guy is considering the same surgery, and it worries me. Our sex life has always been great, I think he is as handsome as they come & he seems to be very strong/healthy. Except he is about 200 lbs over. I am afraid the surgery will do him more harm than good, in the long run. He has tried diets, I even cooked Atkins for him, preparing meals and snacks, at his request, although I don't live with him. He just ate Ice cream and EVERYthing else after I went home without telling me. I lost more weight than he did and I wasn't dieting! I am afraid he won't eat right and will have a nutrition problem, a big one. I am afraid his libido will be affected. I am afraid his body won't recover well/he won't behave post-op and he will somehow hurt himself. I am afraid I will lose him to some health related issue. Basil, he has NO impulse control. In some areas this is a good,no a great thing. In this area it really frightens me. He is going to his Dr soon to request a workup for this surgery. Any advice? Am I being overly paranoid? I have been widowed already, and I realize his weight is a BIG health factor. But the very reason that caused his weight problem, is the selfsame one that make me so fearful about this surgery. Help?

Wed, Jan. 19th, 2005 10:54 pm (UTC)
basilwhite: Re: reality check

I'm glad you enjoyed the diary. The surgery is a powerful tool that changes people's relationship with food. You list a lot of fears over things you can't control. I recommend the Serenity Prayer. You are both in my thoughts.

Tue, Jan. 25th, 2005 06:40 pm (UTC)
(Anonymous): Re: reality check

Thank you,Basil. You are right. Grant me the wisdom to know the difference and the strength to LAY OUT anyone who gets in the way of this. lol

These are the days that make a man want to spit on his hands, run up the black flag, and yell "AAAARRRRRRRR!!!!"